Are you dealing with a grown man or a grown boy?
We always talk about ladies…
Is she a “thot” or a woman?
…Let’s talk about men…
If you’re dealing with a man, he’s going to help you out when he can. Not just when you’re unable to or need him to. ANYTIME he can …. Not just splurging and being financially irresponsible and trying to “buy your love”. I’m talking about if the grass needs cut, if the gas needs pumped, if you need groceries taken in the house. That’s the kind of stuff we like to see.
You can do all these little things yourself right? But what good is another spectator? Relationships and dating is team work right? So what grown man do you know is cool with just sitting in the stands and watching you while you do all the work?
GROWN MEN DO NOT TRIP OVER PETTY PHYSICAL STUFF.
FOR EXAMPLE: Cellulite, stretch marks, bonnets, you haven’t shaved in a little while…. haha i’m sure you’re reading this like “Oh no, you’re tripping” but listen… If you’re 10/10 mentally… shouldn’t you have some lead way for some physical imperfection?
When you’re a grown man, you understand some things occur naturally with age or kids or maybe she’s just to busy to want to start from scratch doing her hair in the mornings. BTW: This doesn’t mean the woman has let herself go. Just give her a break sometimes.
It’s only little boys who think women should be fresh out the plastic wrapper with their hair done 24/7, skin perfect, breast perfect, body perfect. It doesn’t work like that, homeboy.
If you get mad at your man, and he stays calm.. YOU PROBABLY HAVE YOURSELF A GROWN MAN. If you get loud and he gets loud, and you get a littler louder and he gets a little louder and he matches your emotions.. You’re dealing with a grown boy.
A man shouldn’t be in screaming match with a woman, for all that she could date her sister. A man should compliment her energy not mirror it.
A grown man is someone you can see yourself with for a long time and see yourself raising a child with potentially. Not someone that makes you feel like you need help raising HIM.
Ask yourself again… Are you dealing with a Grown Man or Grown Boy?